Being a grandparent has its rewards and challenges both. For many a granny, it’s a sweet spot where they get to shower their grandkids with affection without the primary responsibility of imposing extensive discipline and boundaries on them. If you’re a grandparent who’s unsure of how to effectively connect and bond with your grandkids, here are some basic things you need to know.
For starters, (you already know this but it’s worth emphasizing) the grandparent's role is different from that of a parent. Unless you have been made in-charge of raising your grandchildren, you cannot assume the parent role. That actually means plenty of wiggle room.
As a grandma or grandpa, there is more flexibility when it comes to handling your grandchildren. You get to spoil them and balance out the usually more restrictive treatment of their parents, while still providing the supplemental guidance they need.
Boomers For Zoomers
The late and early baby boomers are now grandparents to the modern generation of Gen Z and millennials. These are the young, internet generation who were born in very different times compared to their boomer grandparents’ era. The digital age they grew up in is a very complex landscape that’s not easy for old folks to navigate.
These kids, teens, and young adults are bombarded by an influx of influences from all fronts - the traditional and digital media, their online and offline social circles, so-called social media influencers, their generation, imperfect like those before them, is known to be tech-driven, independent minded, insatiable, impatient, less open to reprimand, prone to depression and anxiety, have a sense of entitlement, and always craving for relevance, authenticity, and self-care. There is a world of difference between their generation and yours, but that doesn’t mean the chasm is beyond bonding. their communities, coaches, and the evolving world in general.
The Challenge
They may have been branded, quite negatively, as the woke and snowflake generation, but like the generations before them, they are also often misunderstood. With the right opportunity and support, they can also make a huge difference in the world like many of their predecessors did.
As a grandparent, you play a key role in helping them do that. The challenge lies in getting through to them and making connections that matter by setting aside preconceived notions and self-serving agenda. You can begin by looking at them through the lens of care and empathy. Being fussy and prying towards them, no matter how well-meant, may not be the best way to connect with them, much less win them over.
While this generation have their own strengths, they also have weaknesses that need the wisdom of old - something only their grandparents possess. This is the reason why grandparents need to bond with this modern generation - to pass on life wisdom to them and in exchange, learn new things from them, too. It's a complementary relationship that brings a host of benefits to both sides.